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Credibility – Its Power to Attract a Woman
How do you attract a woman through your conversation?
How do you let her know that you are for real?
Or does she know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?
All three of these questions have the same answer.
Credibility.
Able to create credibility is one of the main components to sleeping with a girl quickly.
There are men that think they don't have enough value, most of their problem is the credibility they lack. Now a days most of the techniques they used to create value ends up only to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. (and anyone who's anyone KNOWS I don't even teach value. Not for a damn second!)
"Player vibe" is a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.
The other component is sexual tension.
And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension before sleeping with a guy and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)
So let's get down to it:
There are three levels of credibility.
1. Safety ----The most basic level of credibility, you are to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you
2. Commonality ---- You are to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.
3. Direction ---- You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.
A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->
Every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have your own social programming. We all do.
Having that differences is not that bad. On the contrary, it's very useful.
Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.
We all know that men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, while women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children.
And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.
Her programming is her reality and literally her world.
And credibility is about showing you understand her world.
HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->
Think about that you were in your bedroom. Comfortably warm sitting in a chair.
And then a guy came in. Telling you he was cold. And wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.
You would feel pretty uncomfortable with him and might even think he's crazy.
He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand your world, and doesn't respect your world. He's "in his own world".
You probably wouldn't connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.
This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.
If she thinks that it's a bad thing for a guy (or even some women do) to kiss and tell, then you should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell.
The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility immensely.
You can think of the three levels in this way:
Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.
These are best demonstrated in order.
Guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.
It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.
But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.
The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.
What you will do is try to remember things she's telling you, and then repeat it after she has forgotten it.
Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.
When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.
She thinks "He's just like me!"
This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.
But you can get really good once you know this thing.
It's a major piece and you'll see your game improve dramatically.